Note from the Counselors
Optional Parent Resources
We understand this has not been an easy transition for families during this time of distance learning. We have awesome kids at Shiloh and know they are doing great, but here are a few tips if you are looking for some ideas of getting through this time.
The information below is from the Conscious Discipline website:
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If you are seeing behavior changes in your son/daughter, talk with him/her about what may be the underlying reasons for their frustrations. Now more than ever safety and active calming have become mission-critical for families everywhere. Regardless of how many years we have been developing our own social emotional tool set, it’s difficult to help a child co-regulate when we feel anxious ourselves. It’s important to remember:
*Our calm increases children’s calm.
*You are the most important safe place for your child.
*The brain requires safety and connection. Be intentional about cultivating both.
*Create a “new normal” together using routines and play.
*Provide helpful ways for children to contribute every day.
Here is a visual of things you may be seeing in him/her, and the things that may be going on with them under the surface. If you need to talk, feel free to contact your counselors at email@example.com or firstname.lastname@example.org.
Help for Distance Learning at Home
Parents: Give yourselves a break. You are not homeschooling. You are Crisis Schooling. There is a difference. Humor and funny memes aside-- the struggle is real. It is tempting to fall into ruts of stinkin’ thinkin’ about the growing list of things we cannot do. Instead, we need to shift our focus and attitudes on the abundance of things we CAN DO AND CAN CONTROL. Your school counselors have assembled this list in hopes of helping families navigate their days...at home...with kids...all day...every.single.day...all day...at home. Our school theme this year is FULLY ALIVE! Let us live fully knowing that our God is a God of transformation, renewal, and redemption. Through HIM, we can do all things, albeit 6’apart from one another, for now.
Blessings and prayers,
Mrs. Bobbie Jo Young & Mrs. Kathleen Wrigley
Shiloh Christian School Counselors
#ShilohStrong #WeAreinThisTogether #FullyAlive
Define the purpose of Distance Learning
Distance Learning is NOT an extension of Easter break. Students need to understand that completing their school work is not negotiable. Doing their work NOW, means that they don’t have to go to school in July! This shift has been sudden and is fluidly changing, which may cause anxiety, fear, and stress for students, and their parents.
What parents CAN DO:
- Set a daytime schedule
- We know that children (actually, all humans) thrive with a routine and clear rules in place.
- Children feel safe and secure when they know what to expect, as they do with schedules.
- Set a daytime schedule
- Set Regular Bedtimes and Wake-Ups
- Sleep is important, vital, actually, for both mental and physical health.
- Keeping the same or similar sleep schedules to normal school days helps children focus on their school work.
- Keeping kids on sleep schedules helps to minimize the negative effects of some of the things happening around them, where they (and their parents) have no control.
- Sleep schedules also help to maintain good, strong mental health. I know that I am more emotional and moody when I haven’t had enough sleep.
- Maintaining good sleep habits will help us get back on track when distancing is lessened.
- Maintain Daily Exercise/Movement and Social Connection
- Exercise is essential in maintaining good physical and mental health. Taking walks, playing games such as hide-and-seek, tag, having relay races, bike rides, hikes. (Hikes can be used to teach about nature, plants, animals, and birds)
- Help your child stay connected with friends/classmates via zoom, facetime, and social media.
- Use appropriate and reasonable time limits for phones, tablets, and computers.
Elementary school-aged children:
- Create a list of the subjects and activities for the day
- Create 30-45 minute blocks of time to work on the subjects that your child takes
- A sample morning could include math, followed by a walking break or playing catch for 10 minutes; Social Studies including current events; a set of jumping jacks and a race around the house for another break; then science.
- LUNCH: Take a break for lunch (possibly having your child help make lunch)
- After lunch you can start with recess followed by another subject (for elementary).
Middle School/High School Students:
- Create a list of the subjects and activities for the day (missing work/assignments/zooms)
- 30-45 minute blocks of time to work on the subjects that your child takes
- It is important for older students to take BREAKS. If you try and cram all of your subjects in without breaks, you will become overwhelmed and overloaded. Take breaks after you complete a subject. Take a walk, have a snack, listen to music. After 15 to 20 minutes, get back to work on another assignment/subject.
- Consider having your student zoom or facetime with a friend while completing homework. Students are hurting to see their friends and to have social interactions. Allow them to work together on homework or to allow them to be with each other (zoom/facetime) to have that social interaction much like they would during a study group.
Shiloh Christian School Counseling Program Mission Statement:
As professional school counselors at Shiloh Christian School, our mission is to provide a comprehensive, developmental, and preventative school counseling program that addresses the academic, career, personal and social development of every student, in an environment that weds our school’s core values with biblical values, which nurture faith, community, prayer and service, thereby, enabling our students to be positive participants in a global society.
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Meet our Counselor
Kathleen Wrigley, MS, LICSW
Elementary School Counselor
Kathleen Wrigley serves as Shiloh’s elementary school counselor. Kathleen is contracted to be in her office on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays.
Kathleen received her first Masters degree in social work from Temple University in Philadelphia. Most recently, Kathleen completed her second Masters in Science in School Counseling, at the University of Mary in Bismarck. Kathleen is a licensed independent clinical social worker in the state of North Dakota. Kathleen’s experience in this field dates back to the mid-1990s. Kathleen worked with adjudicated delinquents who were ordered to counseling by the juvenile courts. She was the director of the Child Advocacy Center. She was a child forensic investigator/interviewer, and also had a child and family therapist practice.
Kathleen and her husband, Drew, have three children: Quinn, a Shiloh graduate and freshman at Concordia College; Patrick, a Shiloh junior; and Harper, a 6th grader at Shiloh. Kathleen is a Philadelphia native. She has lived in North Dakota for more than 22 years, and considers North Dakota her home away from home. Kathleen is the Vice President of the Officer Daniel Boyle Memorial Scholarship Fund, sits on the board for Great Plains Food Bank, and is Vice President of the Bismarck Public Schools Crisis Team. She enjoys volunteering at church and community events.
The culmination of Kathleen’s professional, personal, and family experiences have brought her to Shiloh as our school counselor. She often proclaims to have “the best job at Shiloh.” You cannot miss Mrs. Wrigley’s office, located just outside the Commons Area. She loves to dress up in costumes, hug and high five the students, keep kids safe and happy in school, and help students navigate their success. Mrs. Wrigley’s days are spent coordinating classroom counseling lessons, directing the TNT (Trust in Teens) mentoring program and the Watch DOGS (Dads of Great Students) Dads program, meeting with individual students, parents, and teachers, running small groups for new students and those who are in need of extra connection or direction, and connecting families to community services. Mrs. Wrigley is an advocate for little people and an ambassador of Jesus through her work at Shiloh Christian. She will tell you that her job at Shiloh challenges her to be her best self and brings her immense joy.